So many of the issues that women deal with could truly be forgotten and solved if only one key factor would change! Inner Confidence!
We as women are amazing at taking care of others, putting others before ourselves, and sacrificing our dreams and goals for those around us. When is it time, however, to start taking care of ourselves. When is it time to understand our self-worth and learn that we are just as important as others?
It has been proven from research that confidence prevents women from moving up in the corporate world just as fast as men, or from receiving that promotion or extra bonus, or even from truly tackling that job interview. New studies have shown that men are more confident when they have only 20% of the information then women are when they have a whopping 90% of the information.
It’s the inner dialogue we create as women that now have to be changed. We are so vital and important to this society and the children that go on to run this world. Think about it! Every woman that’s absent or lacks self-confidence equates to another little girl that walks with her head down, another little boy who thinks he’s better than little girls or another young lady who stays in an abusive relationship because she doesn’t know her self-worth.
Now don’t get me wrong, we all have those days where negative thoughts pop up into our head, that’s ok as it’s inevitable to stop every bad thought about ourselves. However, what are you doing to counterbalance that negativity and are you allowing those demons to sabotage your life and happiness?
Here are 5 tips to help you find your inner confidence and be that princess or queen that we are all meant to be!
Change Your Inner Dialogue:
First and foremost you have to start talking back to yourself and balancing the demons that pop up in your head. For every negative thought that comes out you must say “No that is not true!” or shower yourself with positive things that you know are true about yourself. If a person says something mean to your family would you be quick to jump back and protect them? If so why aren’t you willing to do that for yourself against yourself?
Be Aware of Your Verbiage:
The majority of people don’t even realize when they are cutting themselves down. The words we choose to use have become second nature even the negative words. However, what we don’t realize is negative verbiage subconsciously makes us feel less and less confident. Become more aware of what you say and eliminate words and phrases such as “I can’t” ” I don’t know how” ” I don’t think I can” “I’m not sure” “I’m not ready!” Start saying things like “I can do this” “I’ll figure it out” “I deserve this!” “I’m going to go for it.” Have your friends help you manage the words that phrases that come out of your mouth.
Surround Yourself with Positive People:
You are the 5 people you spend the most time with! If you are constantly hanging out with Debbie Downers you will become a Debbie Downer. Choose people that will make you better than have the self-confidence you would like to gain. People uplift others even when they don’t know it but they can also bring them down. Start finding the people that can lift you up that make you feel great and add to your inner worth! Yes, this means that some of your family members may need to receive less time in your life! Often it’s those closet to us that makes us feel unworthy.
Regardless if you’re a gym guru or Zumba queen, getting exercise helps you feel great! No one is saying you need to go and run miles on the treadmill but find something that suits you that helps you feel beautiful and more energetic. After a while, you will start to walk taller and prouder from your exercise routine. Zumba is always a great “feel good” class!
Make Time For Your Happiness:
Everybody has at least one thing that makes them extremely happy! Make time for yourself and do the things that make you happy at least 4 times a week. Add it to your calendar as if it were a meeting. Do not allow yourself to cancel the meeting with yourself. Whether it’s reading, riding a bike, enjoying a cup of coffee outside, it doesn’t matter! Allow yourself to take part in the things that you love! You deserve it!