3 Things to Realize if You’re Sick of Getting Ghosted
How do you feel about being ghosted?
It sure seems like every dating site is full of Casper the Unfriendly Ghost.
Yet, every single day, if you’re going to partake in any dating site or dating app, sometimes swiping right means being swiped and liked by Casper the Unfriendly Ghost.
It’s the topic of so many conversations between you and your friends.
You get really frustrated when you get ghosted, especially when you’ve created some type of pre-romance story between you and the man or the woman that you’re looking to meet.
It hurts more especially when you’ve been texting back and forth and you’ve got some chemistry, and then all of a sudden you get Caspered.
But it’s really time that we get real about this whole ghosting epidemic. I know it sucks, I know it hurts, but there are 3 big truths that you need to swallow about ghosting if you’re going to succeed in spite of it.
1. We are ALL guilty of it
First off, you’ve done it to people. Nobody has never, ever ghosted somebody. So let’s get real and honest with it. It sucks being done to you, yet you have done it to people on numerous occasions.
Don’t deny it. Don’t defend yourself. Don’t go into story mode right now.
You have ghosted people as well, so just deal with the fact that you’ve ghosted people and they’ve also ghosted you.
2. It’s a fact of modern dating
The next thing you need to do is realize that, if you’re going to play the modern dating game, when people are shopping for bigger, better deals online and on dating apps, then you know what?
You’re going to go through periods of being ghosted.
It’s just the way modern dating is. There’s nothing you can do about it at all.
You’re not going to change it. We can write 7,000 articles about. I can list 5 or 10 or 20 reasons why you should never ghost somebody. But the reality is, people are going to ghost.
Why? Because we’ve made it easy for people to ghost.
We’ve made it easy through social conditioning. One person ghosts, so another person thinks it’s okay to ghost, and that’s how it’s become socially acceptable.
That’s what dating has become. People are not being courteous of each other.
3. Don’t take it personally
So what do you do when you’ve been ghosted?
Don’t take it personally.
You’ve done it to people, and they’ve done it to you.
It’s the way the game is played now, so the only thing you can do is keep moving forward.
In fact, that’s your one and only choice, because the right person is not going to ghost you at all.
All it takes is one.
I’ve been ghosted many times in my life, and you know what? I don’t take it personally.
It doesn’t mean that I’m not a great man.
It doesn’t mean that I’m not a great catch.
It doesn’t mean anything deeper than the person that you were talking to is no longer interested. That’s it.
So instead of saying something, they realized that it’s perfectly safe and perfectly okay to ghost, because that’s the way our society is.
Deal with it.
Don’t take things personally.ARTICLE BY DAVID WYGANT