As we close out another year, it can be a good idea to do an inventory on our wins and our losses. What goals did we achieve? What eluded our grasp? What unbelievably good fortune came our way? What slipped past us?
If we’re not careful, however, this kind of thinking can lead us into a trap. If you’re anything like me, you’ll find it much easier to fixate on what didn’t happen instead of what did. And then before I know it, I feel a sense of time running out. The end of the month becomes a deadline for all of the goals I still haven’t met and for all of the good fortunes that I haven’t received. I start ruminating on what 2018 might have looked like. On what I’m not holding in my hands this very second. And pretty soon, all the wonderful surprises and achievements and goodies of this year aren’t nearly as important as what I have yet to accomplish (ideally before December 31st.) Because down deep is this nagging thought: if it didn’t happen already, then how on earth can I expect to ever see it happen??
Whenever I start feeling like this, I remind myself to make room for faith. I don’t necessarily mean spiritual faith, though that is a big part of this time of year. What I’m referring to is the unshakeable conviction, despite all evidence to the contrary, that your highest good is on its way to you – even if you can’t see it yet.
One of the definitions of faith in Merriam-Webster’s dictionary is a “firm belief in something for which there is no proof.” And proof, as we all know, is paramount. It certainly comes in handy when we’re at a holiday party, catching up with inquisitive friends and family. Did we finally get our novel published? Uh, no. Meet the love of our life? Not quite. Get that promotion? “Nope,” we may say, our spirits a little crushed.
Not yet, we must think.
Because the Universe hasn’t forgotten about you. It’s just on its own timetable. It’s still cooking up miracles, and the more faith we have in those miracles coming to us, the sooner they’re bound to arrive. In fact, it’s the very fact that you don’t have proof that makes having faith so powerful. Faith requires you to believe in your wants and desires more than in the reality you can actually see. It demands that you believe in yourself. It pushes you to take action. It calms the part of you that fears change. And it’s the mechanism by which we can actually attract our highest good into our lives.
But we also have to do our part to keep our faith strong. Here are some easy strategies to keep our faith strong and vibrant as we head into 2019:
- Meditation. Spending at least ten minutes a day focusing on our breath and clearing our mind not only helps us calm the chatter in our brain, it can connect us with the voice inside of us that knows good is coming.
- Gratitude. Every night before bed, write down ten things in your day that you feel grateful for. They can be as simple as “the roof over my head” or “the joke my coworker told over lunch.” Feeling grateful for all of the good in our lives helps us know that more good is being cooked up and sent our way. (Plus, it also helps attract more in our life to feel grateful for!)
- Affirmations. Every day write down what you want as if you already have it, know it, or embody it. Write it in a sentence five times in a row. Example: “I am a brilliant author with a published novel.” The act of creating affirmations tells you that something already exists. It takes it out of the unknown and plants it firmly in the here and now.
Having faith in the not-yet-seen isn’t easy, but with practice, it can become second nature.
You have all you need inside of you to make 2019 your best year yet.
Considered by many to be one of Los Angeles’ top coaches, Gretchen Hydo is a professional certified and credentialed life and business coach, keynote speaker, and thought leader, who has spent over ten years working, hands-on, with individual clients and notable companies, providing tools and practical tips to produce unprecedented results and meaningful life and business changes. www.gretchenhydo.com.
I created the 2019 Transformation group with women like you mind. I don’t know about you, but I am so tired of seeing messages that make women feel like they are less than or that they aren’t good enough. We are good enough. You are good enough.