Love makes us do stupid stuff! It’s the only thing that causes many of us to do things that are out of our character. Often times we get so excited that we finally met someone that we tolerate and ignore the signs that are trying to help us! We stop trusting ourselves, we being to sacrifice our standards and expectations, and we ignore our intuition when it’s trying to tell us something! Then we read a ton of articles that all say the same thing and we still go against the grain in hopes that we are different!
It’s time for us to wake up and not be so desperate to find love, otherwise we don’t find love we find drama, stress, and a whole lot of baggage! Love will come and go so do not rush into something thats not right because you’re scared of being alone! Here are 5 signs in a relationship that you should watch for and be aware of.
Feelings Are Being Disregarded:
If your loved one doesn’t take your feelings into account, run! This means you are in a one sided relationship with someone who only cares about themselves. You need to be able to say how and what you feel to your partner and your partner should be able to listen and see your side of things. Doing the opposite and disregarding your loved ones feelings can do a lot of damage. Words like “No you don’t” and “get over it” aren’t acceptable when you feel down.
Lack of Communication:
A relationship takes the communication of two people. If something isn’t working, being able to talk about it and solve it is extremely important and crucial to the success of the relationship. Not talking about your differences is not an option! Do not allow your partner to get away with “I just don’t feel like talking!” If it involves both of you then you need to come to an agreement of when a good time is to communicate and work together.
You do not need a father figure in your relationship. Your partner is not there to tell you what to do or how to live you’re life. A relationship is a hand shake between two people who work together to make each other as well as themselves better. If you are with someone who is constantly picking on you, critiquing you, and putting you down, get out! You are going to lose yourself before you know it. A loved one is there to support you and provide love not constant criticism.
A loving relationship takes two! If the romance becomes one sided someone is going to get bitter really fast! You and your partner need to be willing to compromise for each other. There will be times when you need to pick and choose your battles. If one person is constantly winning ever battle it is no longer an equal relationship! Make sure this is clear from the beginning. If they’re not willing to compromise they aren’t looking for a partner, they’re looking for a doormat.
Not Open to Change:
Lastly, no one is perfect! So I’m not saying that your partner is going to be magically do everything right. More than likely your partner is going to do the above things at some point or another, but the key is change. Are they willing to change and work things out for the good and well being of the relationship? If they are not willing to change then there is nothing more to do. When a person says I will not change and refuses to work on themselves for good of the relationship, it’s over. GET OUT!
You need to ask yourself why you are in a relationship and what do you want from it? The point is to feel loved and have a positive partner live life with you. Of course this will have ups and downs but if there is no change, no compromise, and no care how can you get through the ups and downs? Love yourself and recognize it’s time to get out and work towards a happier you if you’re in this type of relationship. You matter!